Marriage is a big step in a relationship. It signifies the commitment and love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. But love isn't always enough. There are questions to ask before marriage. And these kind of questions is to make sure you are pretty ready to imprison yourself with only one person, forever. They go beyond love and children, dealing with conflicts, beliefs, finances and extended family. Read through our 100 carefully selected questions and then off you go. Woo hoo. Grab a cup of coffee and then start reading. 

Questions about Marriage and Children

  • How many kids do you want?
  • How do you want to discipline your kids?
  • What values do you want to install in your children?
  • What would you do if one of your children said he was homosexual?
  • What if our children didn't want to go to college?
  • How much say do children have in a family?
  • Would you put your children in private or public schools?
  • Would you be opposed to having our parents watch the children so we can spend time alone together?
  • What are your thoughts on home or schooling?
  • Would you be willinng to adopt if we couldn't make kids?
  • Would you be willing to seek medical attention if we couldn't have kids naturally?
  • Do you believe it's OK to discipline your child in public?
  • How do you feel about paying for your kid's college education?
  • Would you want someone to stay home with the kids or use day care?
  • How will you handle parental decisions?
  • How far apart do you want kids?
  • How involved do you want grandparents to be in our parenting?

Dealing With Conflict

The following are selective and to our point of view. It's not by force or mandatory to ask yourself these questions too. Make sure you're going to have a healthy relationship by dealing with these pre-marriage questions.

  • Would you be willing to go to marriage counseling if we were having marital problems?
  • If there is a disagreement between your family and me, whose side do you choose?
  • How will you handle disagreements?
  • Would you ever consider divorce?
  • How can I be a better partner?
  • How would you communicate if you aren't satisfied sexually?
  • What is the best way to handle disagreements in a marriage?

Moral, Political, Religious, Family Values and Beliefs

  • What are your views on infidelity?
  • What are your religious views on marriage?
  • What are your political views?
  • What are your views on birth control?
  • Would you rather be rich and miserable or poor and happy?
  • Who will make the biggest decisions of the household?
  • What would you do if someone said something bad about me?
  • Would you follow the advice of your family before your spouse?
  • Is it always the responsibility of the wife to do house chores?

Handling Finances

  • How do you feel about debt?
  • What are your views on spending money?
  • What are your views on saving money?
  • How well do you budget?
  • Do you feel it is important to save for retirement?
  • Do you have any debt?
  • What if a family memeber wants to borrow a large sum of money?
  • Who will take care of the financial matters of the household?


Don't forget to entertain yourselves. All work and no play, makes jack a dull boy. Find out if your future spouse like been entertained regularly or doesn't like it at all.

  • Do you prefer traveling?
  • How often would you travel?
  • How important is spending time alone to you?
  • What would be the perfect weekday evening to you?
  • What would we do if we both had a break from work, but each of us had different ideas on how to spend it?

Medical Information

One of the most important questions to ask your incoming spouse is their medical information. Without asking, it can lead to a huge trouble such as giving birth to sicklers if you refuse to ask the sicklig status of your spouse. The following are some questions you can ask your partner to know about their medical statuses.

  • Does anyone in your family suffer from alcoholism?
  • What is your family's medical history?
  • Would you be opposed to mental health treatment?
  • Are you willing to exercise with me to imprve our health?
  • Where do you want to live?
  • What's your sickling status?
  • What's your blood group?
  • What's your medical history?

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Published on 11th, Feb 2021

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